Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De'ah Siman 360

Siman 360

Presented here for study, not as a practical ruling. The Shulchan Aruch rules by Sephardi custom, the Rema's glosses by Ashkenazi custom, and the Kitzur follows Ashkenazi custom. For a practical question, ask your rabbi.

א אִם פָּגְעוּ מֵת וְכַלָּה זֶה בָּזֶה, מַעֲבִירִין הַמֵּת מִלִּפְנֵי הַכַּלָּה; וְכֵן אִם אֵין בָּעִיר כְּדֵי לָזֶה וְלָזֶה, מַקְדִּימִין וּמַכְנִיסִין הַכַּלָּה לַחֻפָּה, וְאַחַר כָּךְ קוֹבְרִים הַמֵּת. אֲבָל אַחַר שֶׁנִּכְנְסָה לַחֻפָּה, וְיֵשׁ לְפָנָיו לְנַחֵם אָבֵל וּלְשַׂמֵּחַ חָתָן, תַּנְחוּמֵי הָאֵבֶל קוֹדֵם. וְכֵן הַבְרָאַת הָאָבֵל קוֹדֵם לְמִשְׁתֶּה שֶׁל חָתָן. בַּמֶּה דְּבָרִים אֲמוּרִים, שֶׁיֵּשׁ בְּיָדוֹ סִפּוּק כְּדֵי שְׁנֵיהֶם, אֲבָל אִם אֵין בְּיָדוֹ כְּדֵי שְׁנֵיהֶם, מִשְׁתֵּה הֶחָתָן קוֹדֵם. חָתָן וְאָבֵל בב"ה, יוֹצֵא הֶחָתָן עִם שׁוֹשְׁבִינָיו תְּחִלָּה, וְאַחַר כָּךְ הָאָבֵל, וְהַמְנַחֲמִים וְכֵן הַקְּרוּאִים שֶׁלָּהֶם אוֹכְלִים עִם הֶחָתָן כְּשֶׁיִּרְצוּ, וְלֹא עִם הָאָבֵל (בֵּית יוֹסֵף בְּשֵׁם הַגָּהוֹת מַיְמוֹנִי פ"ד). הַמֵּת וְהַמִּילָה, מִילָה קוֹדֶמֶת; וְאִם הוּא מֵת מִצְוָה, מֵת מִצְוָה קוֹדֵם.
1 If a funeral procession and a bridal procession meet each other [on the way], the funeral procession is made to make way for the bridal procession. Likewise, if there are not sufficient [people] in the city [to attend] both, they bring in the bride [under the bridal] canopy first, and then they bury the dead; but after she has been brought in [under the bridal] canopy and there is before him [the duty] to comfort a mourner and to gladden a bridegroom, comforting the mourner comes first. Similarly the mourners' meal takes precedence over the bridegroom's [wedding-] feast. When does this apply? — When one has the means to fulfil both [religious duties]; but if he does not possess the means to fulfil both, the bridegroom's [wedding-] feast comes first. [ If ] a groom and a mourner are in the Synagogue, the groom and his friends leave first and then the mourner and the comforters; and thus [ also ] their guests may eat with the groom if they so desire, and not with the mourners,. [In the case of] a corpse and a circumcision,—circumcision comes first. If, however, he is a corpse [the burial of which] is a religious duty, he comes first.